When we decided to start our day with a morning walk I didn’t realize how much learning would actually take place. I agreed to it out of a need for my own exercise and an opportunity for the girls to cross-train (exercise other than dancing) by walking, running or riding their bikes. Not to mention, it was a beautiful sunny morning! No, I didn’t consider the discussion about seasons, observations of birds and even math skills that would come in to play as we walked the neighborhood.
My oldest rode her bike ahead and kept circling back. My youngest started by trying to run to keep up with her sister, but asthma wheeziness started creeping in due to a combination of spring pollen and over exertion, I guess. Instead she just walked with me….and learned.
As all kindergarteners do, we learned more about the seasons. We noticed that fall isn’t the only season to have pretty varying colors of leaves on trees. She noticed the varying shades of green on the spring leaves, as well as some pinks and yellows.
Oh, the birds! They were out in full force this beautiful spring morning causing us to enjoy some impromptu nature studies. First we heard them. We just listened to their singing. We heard one that was probably the baby and then what we assumed was it’s mother answering back. My daughter shared her thoughts that the baby was asking for breakfast and the mother was telling it she’d be right back with a worm. Then we noticed the different sounds of bird songs coming from different trees. A little farther on our walk we noticed a bright red cardinal, along with two female cardinals. As it’s always surprising for young children to learn, I told her that the prettiest cardinal is the male and the others are female. As we watched them flit and fly from branch to branch playing with each other she decided that maybe the two females were actually bickering and fighting over the handsome male cardinal. (It seems thoughts of romance starts young these days. And, no, we don’t spend our afternoon watching soap operas.)
We learned about math as we counted how long it would take her sister to get from the end of the cul-de-sac to the other end on her bike. It took 6o seconds, which we reviewed equals one minute. We continued discussing it would probably take an hour if she did it 60 times, because an hour equals 60 minutes. How many could she do in 15 minutes? About 15, of course. She didn’t realize we were having a mini math lesson.
I didn’t realize either, as we were walking and talking, all the things we were learning while putting off school work for a walk in the neighborhood. It was as we returned home and entered the driveway that it hit me what a productive morning walk we had had. She asked to stay out a little longer to play with bubbles and I obliged. Who knows what else she might discover and learn on her own while she stays outside just a little longer!
Today I was a little surprised of what we learned as we followed up on an experiment which was in our chemistry reading yesterday. We didn’t do it yesterday because we didn’t, and usually don’t, have soda (aka “pop” to my Pennsylvania friends) in the house. We hot glued 8 Mentos together and dropped them in the 2 liter bottle of diet coke. You can see the results in the video below.
We briefly reviewed the topics of chemical reactions and physical reactions. (Yes, it is a Saturday, and no, they didn’t mind at all.) It also turned into a realization of why we as a family do not drink soda, and are trying to minimize candy. What happens inside of your body when you consume these things together?!? We take a classical approach to education, so it shouldn’t have surprised us that the subjects of health and chemistry blended together. I guess it was unexpected because I hadn’t thought of a healthy habit tie-in earlier and it wasn’t planned. So, what unexpected lessons did you learn this weekend?
(Please know I am not preaching to or judging those of you who drink soda. It is just our preference for our family. I’m just sharing how much learning is done out of school time and how we have to be open to straying from the focus topic from time to time. You would likely disagree with our Hershey Kiss intake. 😉 )
12/23/2016 I’m reposting this as a reminder to enjoy the peace and love of Christmas with your families as Mary did. I’m quite certain the stable was not perfect.
I catch myself doing it from time to time; you know, trying to make a holiday or other special day perfect. I’m certainly not a perfectionist, but for some reason these ideals creep into my mind around holidays like Christmas or Easter and when I am hosting birthday parties for my children. I find myself getting so caught up in these ideals that it causes me stress which results in my own unhappiness and grumpiness, and worse yet, it steals the happiness from the people whom I am trying to bring joy. It’s a vicious cycle.
It was the day before Easter Sunday this year when I started feeling it. I had not slept well the night before, I had to get the kids to an egg hunt, bake the bunny cake (which was a new thing for us this year, but we were all looking forward to it) and dye the eggs. Not to mention tidy the house in preparation for my brother and his wife who would be here for dinner on Sunday. Oh, and finish the routine laundry and prepare a regular Saturday dinner. My daughter entered the kitchen with anticipation inquiring, “Are we dying eggs or baking the bunny cake first?” I must have worn the stress on my face and probably didn’t realize I let out a frustrated sigh. That’s when sadness appeared on her face and she said to me, “Why aren’t you happy?” Whoa! What? Yikes, what am I doing? OK, I know what I need…a power nap, but there is really not time and I just had a cup of coffee so sleep won’t happen. I really just need to relax and maybe prioritize. What is the priority? Eggs or bunny cake? Neither. The priority is to build happy memories with my girls. It is for them to see the love of Jesus as we celebrate Easter, not the grumpiness of Mommy. We colored the eggs together and then prepared the cake batter. Things worked out. Instead of having a homemade dinner that night, we ended up having Chipotle for dinner on our way back from the grocery store, and that’s okay. I got some other things done while, get this, they decorated the bunny cake all by themselves. It looked great and tasted delicious!
The very next week as I was getting my daughter’s 6th Birthday Tea Party ready and I started to feel it again….the desire for it to be perfect. The day before the party my oldest, confident after the success of the Bunny Cake, made and decorated the birthday cupcakes all by herself. My birthday girl and I set out the activities and filled the favor bags together. I had put off buying the flowers and balloons until the day of the party so they would be fresh. The morning of the tea party, I started feeling the frantic feeling again of having things tidy, prepared and perfect. My birthday girl was cleaning off the coffee table and brought me a bookmark which she thought was mine so I could put it away. “Keep Calm and Pray” were the words on the bookmark. That was all I needed for a reality check. I said a quick little prayer and remembered that ten years from now, or even tomorrow, it won’t matter if I had the fruit cut in cute little shapes to match the sandwiches. The party doesn’t have to be perfect to bring my sweet little six year old and her friends happiness.
Am I cured? Will I never again stress about an event or occasion? Probably not. I do think I will catch myself early enough to keep calm and pray, and remember that happiness does not equal perfection.
We all focus our attention to academics, and making sure our children are active in organized sports and structured activities. With all of these concerns and commitments, are we allowing our kids to just be creative? A little over a year ago, I let go of the morning resistance to get our school work started. I was realizing that after breakfast (sometimes even before breakfast) was the time my girls seem to get caught up in their own ideas and creations. Sometimes it was Lego constructions or bead work. More recently it is drawing, painting, crochet, or even acting, videography and photography. It was last year that I embraced this time and instead of demanding their obedience to get dressed and sit at the table to do school work, I gave them the time to create. Within reason, I allowed them time to complete the project they had started. They understood that the next thing to do was begin their school work. Yes, it’s also beneficial to incorporate their talents and interests with the academic lessons, but I think the unstructured time without imposing expectations of the end product is also necessary. Allowing this time to get their creative juices flowing and to express themselves in the mode of their choice made our academic times even more enjoyable and productive. Currently, I see this optimal creative time of day changing for one and I need to be sure to work with it instead of against it, and allow her the time to create.
One week in March my two daughters brought home a total of six award ribbons and two medals. I’m not bragging. I’m actually expressing frustration.
One daughter did earn two of her four ribbons and the youngest did earn one of her two ribbons. They both entered artwork in a community art show. As their mother, of course I liked their art and a few of the pieces will be hung on a wall, not just the fridge. I’m proud of the ribbons they were given for actually placing, but I am annoyed with the” honorable mention” ribbons they brought home just because they entered the show. Every piece of art, for all who entered had a ribbon placed on it.
Oh, and the medals? They were given them because they were in a parade! No, they did not receive a performance award in the parade. The organization they were representing handed them out just for being there. When I was young the opportunity to be in a parade was exciting enough. I certainly didn’t need a medal to feel good about it.
As a family we try to avoid activities which award kids for meeting minimal expectations for a few reasons:
1) Lessons can be learned in losing. If you see someone else carrying a trophy or wearing a medal and you are not, you will develop a desire to work harder to earn said award.
2) Kids begin to expect a prize or award for everything they do. They become too extrinsically motivated instead of developing the intrinsic motivation, the desire which comes from within themselves. We want kids to do well because it feels good to them, not because of something someone hands to them.
3) It minimizes the achievement to the kids who put in the hard work and preparation to win. Is it right that one who reads about the activity, practices the activity at home as well as in organized practice, and who puts for their best efforts in practice (not just there to socialize) walks out with the same award? I don’t think so.
I hope our family stance on this will provide positive outcomes for our children.